The Cost of Avoiding Change: How Resistance Ages You from the Inside Out
Let’s call it out right now - change is uncomfortable. That’s not a secret. But the real problem? It’s what happens when we avoid it. When we resist the change process so long, it starts resisting us right back.
Energetically, emotionally, physically—your body keeps the score. And the longer you stay locked in familiar patterns, the more those patterns calcify. What starts as stress becomes inflammation. What begins as a mindset loop becomes a nervous system pattern. That pattern becomes premature aging, brain fog, chronic fatigue, and dis-ease.
Resistance isn’t neutral—it’s corrosive.
And the longer we wait, the harder it becomes to shift.
Change Takes Courage (But Avoiding It Costs More)
Here’s the raw truth: Many people only choose real change when they’re faced with a health crisis, a breakdown, or a diagnosis they can’t ignore. I call it the 2x4 method—because life literally has to hit you upside the head to get your attention.
But what if you didn’t wait that long? What if change didn’t have to come from desperation—but from devotion?
Here’s what resisting change actually does over time:
Builds energetic "plaque" in your field (think emotional congestion)
Embeds outdated beliefs into your body (e.g. "I’m just a stressed person")
Keeps your nervous system in fight/flight
Hardens your habits and decreases your adaptability
Leads to burnout, inflammation, chronic fatigue, or even illness
This is how "making a mountain out of a molehill" becomes literal: every excuse adds a layer of resistance. And over time, it weighs you down—mentally, emotionally, and physically.
From Coping to Choosing: The Sacred Slow Burn of Real Change
There was no lightning bolt. No dramatic rock bottom.
Just a quiet, persistent knowing:
“This isn’t who I came here to be.”
The woman I was? She coped. She numbed. She pushed through.
But the woman I was becoming? She chose differently—one sacred, imperfect step at a time.
Over the span of nearly a decade, I began making micro-shifts that changed everything:
I quit smoking.
I stopped drinking alcohol and using weed to check out.
I gave up meat, began supplementing for brain clarity, and cleaned up my food.
I started doing face yoga—not for vanity, but for vitality.
I added Essentrics, daily walks, and HIIT workouts to support my heart, strength, and nervous system through peri-menopause.
Not because I was chasing a polished version of myself.
Because I was tired of outsourcing my power to patterns that weren’t working anymore.
Because I knew my DNA carried generations of trauma—and I didn’t want to pass that torch forward.
And slowly… things shifted.
I became calmer. Clearer.
More emotionally steady. Less reactive.
Able to return to center faster—without abandoning myself to do it.
Not because I had finally “figured it out.”
But because I had finally surrendered to this truth:
Change isn’t a performance.
It’s a practice.
It’s not about proving your worth—it’s about coming home to your power.
Small, Sacred Shifts (That Actually Help You Engage with Change)
You don’t need a life overhaul to feel different.
You don’t need to burn it all down to begin again.
Change doesn’t have to be dramatic. But it does have to be intentional. The kind of micro-movements that seem insignificant… until one day, you realize your entire reality has shifted.
These practices aren’t just “wellness hacks.”
They’re invitations to come back to your body.
To come back to choice.
To come back to a nervous system that feels safe enough to change.
Start here:
Every 30 minutes, do 10 squats. Move the energy. Move your blood. Rewire stagnation.
Practice intentional breathing. Inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 6. Do 3 rounds.
Drink water before coffee. Your cells need hydration, not stimulation.
Screen-free time 1 hour before bed. Your brain needs to decompress, not scroll.
Journal this prompt: What have I been avoiding because I’m too “busy” to change it?
These micro-actions anchor you into presence. Into possibility. Into a body that feels safe enough to change.
These aren’t about doing more.
They’re about doing what matters—with presence.
Because embodiment isn’t built in the big leaps. It’s built in devoted, daily return.
The Real Invitation
Ultimately, the best way to change… is to explore why you haven’t.
You are not lazy. You are not weak. You are not behind.
You are likely just living from an internal system and external conditioning that were designed to keep you “safe” aka the “same”.
But that system? It’s not your destiny. It’s not safe. And it’s not what you need right now.
Change is courageous. It’s inconvenient. It’s revolutionary. And you don’t need to wait for a breakdown to begin.
Start now. Start small. Start sacred.
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